Inpain... I don't know the specifics of your situation, but it sounds like you have made some changes, and now H needs time to trust in the new you. There does seem to be positive momentum...he has moved back home, and now he's back in the bedroom...I just think it's going to take some time to restore the intimacy. I know with my H, I would get a dose of true affection from him when I least expected it.
Something my H and I agreed upon was a date night where we would do something fun and then try to be physical with each other. Many times it was uncomfortable, but we stayed with it. Sometimes you have to just push things along, which does have a forced feeling...it was much better when I began to get some glimmers of spontaneous desire.
Take it a day at a time...look for small positives. Be patient. Hang in there!
