need advice please

[inpain_dup1]

Hi. Wondering if anyone has any advice on how to cope when H doesn't want any intimacy or any "strategies" for getting it back!?

A little background - my H left on 12th Aug 06 and we were separated for four months. He has been moved back in for just over five weeks and everything is fantastic except for H's lack of affection/intimacy. I do realise that five weeks is not very long but am very worried that this side of things is never going to come back. When he first moved back in he would give me hugs and kiss me on the cheek or forehead when he went to work - he was sleeping in the spare room. Just over a week ago he came home drunk and slept in our bed but clinging onto the side as far away from me as possible. He has slept in our bed every night since and seems to be more comfortable with it. Since he has slept in our bed the hugs have stopped. He has given me a couple of kisses on the forehead but has looked so pained and uncomfortable about it that I wish he hadn't! If I ask him about the fact he doesn't even want to kiss me he says he's not ready for that and he needs everything to be sorted out in his head first. He says he does find me attractive and he doesn't really understand it himself.

I am thrilled to have him back - don't get me wrong - but it is hurting me so much every day to have no contact and lie next to him at night and want to kiss him at least and see the painful expressions on his face if he kisses me on the forehead - like I'm forcing him to do it. I have DB'd so hard and managed to get him home to try to work things out but I think I'm going to fall at the last hurdle over this. Kissing and ML means an awful lot to me - its my primary LL. I am getting more and more upset about it as each day passes because I thought that as each day passed he would get closer to me in that way and it isn't happening. A couple of weeks ago we went out and I put my arm through his when we were walking and he said even that made him feel uncomfortable. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate - this is tearing me apart and because I'm DBg I can't even tell him.