Right now, her pain is still white hot, if she allows it validate her when and if she bring up R talk, tell her she is the one you want. Depending how she is dealign w/it, it will take a few months for the anger to subside. I know my anger/hurt would've died down had my H give me any consolation, had he made me feel constantly that I was the one he really wanted to be with.
Are you guys going to couples counceling? there must've been other issues why you distanced yourself from her enough to have an A.
Do keep being helpful, not doing anything will make her feel burdened and unappreciated it. Even if she doesn't say it (again, remember she is very hurt) she will feel taken care of if you do stuff around the house. The fact that she wants to be separated has to do w/her dealing w/the A.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
