Nov 1-22: I had an affair with OW from work. Told my wife I was unhappy and wanted to leave her but was willing to work on it. Affair not revealed. Broke Wife's Heart #1.
Nov 28: Told wife I didn't think it would work and that I was leaving. Before conversation ended, I agreed again to stay and work on it. Affair Still not Revealed. Broke Wife's Heart #2.
Dec 14: Told OW it was over and that I wanted to work on my relationship with my wife and family. Admitted Affair to wife. Broke Wife's Heart #3.
Dec 15-Jan 3: Working in couples therapy, wife staying and working on fixing our relationship. I begin to stray back to OW because I thought I had feelings for her.
Jan 4: Told wife I couldn't commit to counseling because I had feelings for OW. Slept with OW next night and realized I didn't love her, and only loved my wife. Admitted to wife and told her I wanted her more than anything. Broke Wife's Heart #4.
Now I am fully committed to working on me to correct my sex and love addiction through SLAA, working with therapist to correct and address my abandonment issues so that I won't do this again. Wife has said that she wants nothing to do with me except when it comes to the kids. She hasn't filed for a Big-D or said that it is over, just that she needs her space and time to think.
I just want a ray of hope that she can come around to seeing that I am fixing myself for her. I guess I'm just looking for other's experience with how long it took a hurt wife to open up to fixing the relationship. Weeks, Months, Years? It's hard to give her her space when I want her back so badly.
Thanks.
M-30 W-28 S-6, S-5 Bomb dropped 1/4/2007 Back home 4/17/2007 (103 days) "You'll never know God is all you need, until God is all you have."
