What a long way we/I have come. I never really told my whole story so here goes. In Sept 2005 my H admitted that he was depressed and unhappy in our marriage. He started counseling and everything was directed at me. The therapist basically reinforced his feelings that our marriage was failing and it was all my fault So things just spiraled downward for months. We went to see his therapist and it was a mess. He moved out in and out in Jan 2006, Feb 2006 and for good March 29. I did all the wrong things begged threatened, acted like a child drank too excess...you name it I did it. He turned to OW sometime during all this. In July after one of my rants (I'll take you to the cleaners etc) he filed for D. He stopped the proceedings but did not move back in and I pretty much continued to act the same way. Anyway in Oct he went to a meeting in Vegas and did not call me at all for about a day and when he finally did he basically told me never to call him again that we were getting divorced and that was it. Well he once again stopped the filing and we have done this dance monthly (yes monthly he calls A and then says wait stop I don't want to do this.) I found DB in Feb 2006 but couldn't do it, but in Dec I realized that I had to let my anger go and stop being the b--ch I had become. I returned to the site, started reading, and started applying some of the 180 and LRT. I also got a phone consultation. I realized that I did not want to live my life as an angry bitter person and I wanted to save my marriage. As pathetic as it sounds I still love him and I have 3 kids and want to raise them with their father. So I had one slip but have mostly stayed the course and it is working! My H is in Vegas again, this time with a friend, and the night before he left he stayed here at our home, called me from the airport just to check-in and called me last night when he landed. So I will keep taking care of me and keep a good attitude saying yes it is working.
Me 45 H 51 married 15 yrs D 13, S's 10,8 bomb 1-06, moved out 3-06 filed for D, 7-06,10-06,11-06,12-06 3-07, asked to try again 6-07 D on hold D process restarted 10-07 now trying to reconcile!
So things just spiraled downward for months. We went to see his therapist and it was a mess. He moved out in and out in Jan 2006, Feb 2006 and for good March 29. I did all the wrong things begged threatened, acted like a child drank too excess...you name it I did it. He turned to OW sometime during all this. In July after one of my rants (I'll take you to the cleaners etc) he filed for D. He stopped the proceedings but did not move back in and I pretty much continued to act the same way. 
