First, sorry to hear about your mom....hope she is doing better.
You can find several of my threads around. Going through this about two years with the D final in Aug 06. Basically as the story goes, she told me she was not happy, went through a year of counciling and she finally spilled all of the beans in the final session. Probably going through an early MLC (we are 31, were married just over 9 years) brought on with the thought of having kids. I was not ready then and I guess she was but never communicated that.
From my viewpoint, I have had a no contact policy in place. When the D was final, that was my cue to GAL and to begin moving on without her. We had been seperated for almost a year and a half and not moving forward. I did some major changes and growing up emtionally and really am better for it.
I hold no grudge with her. The ball was in her court to change and until she did, I realized I could not have a R with her.
She calls or contacts me about once every three weeks to get together. Before was to deal with issues, bills, papers, mail, etc but now it seems as if she is trying to find a reason.
Hope that helps to give you some insight.
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
