Cat03, You know better hon, I hope that's the last time you say it. I know. I know. When I am "sensible and composed", I could bite my tongue. But I just lost it that day.
And any crying in my part means manipulation in my H's book,not a sign that I'm hurt Yup. Think that's what my H thinks so too. But crying is something that I can't control and I told him so too... using "Finding Nemo" scene as an example. He remembered that as he was laughing out loud in the cinema when he saw me cry.
BrandNewDay, But I also know that we are all in different places and we are all able to handle different things. Yes. I agree, and only each individual would know what he/she can or cannot handle. Each situation/scenario is different.
Was your Husband in MLC? Or was he just having an affair? I would say a little bit of both. On hindsight, there were signs of him being unhappy with his work/situation etc two years prior to the A. He changed job, industry. And the pressure and my constant nagging...etc etc...
I don't think I could handle having OW in the picture while trying to piece my marriage back together. Think my sitch is much better than many. At least now, we are in a foreign country away from ow. There are many on this BB whereby the spouse is still working together with the op in the same office.
Running, I think it's great you're not avoiding things, but coming up with different ways to ask about them or deal with them. Also, sometimes fighting is a good thing. It can be healthy. Avoiding conflict can seriously hurt a relationship. (Although for those in the early days of piecing, it's probably best to try and avoid fighting).
I have to say that I am still learning to do this subtly. I try to bring it up at different times. I used to jump into asking/discussing about things. Now, I TRY to weigh his moods. We did argue about a week back about our investment. And I brought it up again day before yesterday in a more subtle way, he was so much more at ease. Guessed it's TIMING! too...
SuperStressed, I suppose the thing we need to learn is to truly let go of the things that are not important. I second that, Sista!
