I agree. When your H is 3000 miles away, the "normal" couple chores are still not really in the picture. True piecing will start when H moves back into your home. Both of you will have to start re-living as a couple and as a family. I mean, it IS different when H is visiting for a few days VS. living full-time with you/kids. The pressures of "realities" will show itself once you start living together again. Each day is a challenge to be HAPPY, to keep DBING and to keep your mouth ZIPPED up!!

I appreciate you taking the time to post on my thread.
But I also know that we are all in different places and we are all able to handle different things.

Keeping my mouth shut is not the problem, I have learned well how to listen and to be still.

Was your Husband in MLC? Or was he just having an affair?
Just curious, as I did read some of your posts and was not sure of your situation.

My hat is off to you though.

I don't think I could handle having OW in the picture while trying to piece my marriage back together.

But as I already said, we are all in different places, all of us able to handle different things.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.