I'm so sorry. I think maybe we need to get more info. from you first. What's been going on in the marriage? Did he move out? You said YOU filed...if you don't really want a divorce, why did you file? Has the affair been going on a long time? You don't have to go through with it; you could withdraw the paperwork. Tell us more.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
