I believe I did, and I thank you for taking the risk you took in writing it.
There are people from all walks of life here and with various belief systems.
Some seem to have no 'moral thether' whatsoever.
Some have actually stalked other members of this board and done inappropriate things, to say the least.
So, we don't often deal with indivduals of spotless purity here.
To be fair, there are also people here who have genuinely sought to improve themselves, their lives and their marriages. I have formed a few private relationships but I have been very careful and these are in no way romantic. One must thoroughly examine one's own motives with rigorous honesty. Constantly.
The vociferous nature of some of the responses indicates you have touched a few nerves. Bravo!
One must recognize, whether your belief is in God or Murphy's Law, that the noblest of endeavors will meet the severest resistance. In other words, your beliefs will be tested.
In a sense, DBing is like AA: as long as you work the program you have a chance. If you stop working the program, you have no chance.
The program says you can't work on saving your marriage and pursue another romantic relationship at the same time.
Jesus said you can't serve two masters.
I can reveal many other sources of this same truth.
imLIN has made a mistake, recognizes this mistake and wants to share her experience with others. Those with an ear will hear. "A fool learns from his own mistake; a wise man learns from the mistakes of others."
I heard no pontificating and no judgements, only experience and advice predicated upon that experience.
The attacks upon her are unjustied and tell me that the attackers have some guilt issues to work through.
The idea to delete the thread smacks of censorship.
I want access to ANY idea that will help me save my marriage. I didn't come here just to have my own damaged feelings validated. I don't want to be right. I want to know the truth.
Thanks imLIN for speaking some of it.
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
