This is really a private matter. What you have written about has been happening since the dawn of man. Just because it occurs over the internet doesn't make it any different.
I do have to say this. I am appalled by your post because of your selfishness. This is not only about you, it about another DBer and the vast majority of people here are able to put 2 and 2 together and figure out who the poor guy victim is and how this is going to affect him.
All sitches on here aren't good however, your victim's sitch has to be one of the cruelest sitches I've seen in a long time. I'm very doubtful that the humiliation and embarassment that your thread will attract is unlikely to help him heal sooner.
My fear is this public disclosure, this despicable breach of trust, this kiss and tell sob story, will drive him away from the board. He heals from writing and his writings bring enormous value to the community (just read his last detailed post). His posts bring way more value that yours which I have to say make pathetic reading. I actually don't blame your H from leaving you because I'd do the same, MLC or no MLC.
Why couldn't you just let this go? Chalk it up to something that wasn't right (even though you were a willing participant) and show some courtesy to some poor schmuck who was misguided enough to have believed that you were worth it.
The best thing you can do, for everyone concerned is to email the mods to take this thread down. If this doesn't appeal to you, how about asking for the thread to be retitled "Some advise if you are an selfish fool".
We aren't all as stupid, inconsiderate and selfish as you are and your thread adds absolutely no value to DBing or this board.
