I have another option to present H with if you keeps pursuring you with questions. I was reading this last night in Michele's DB book, page 152.
Tell your H that you can set aside a half hour each week to talk about the A and any questions he might have. (And like Runningoutoftime said talk about the negatives in the A.) Tell him that you will LISTEN and do your best to answer if in turn, HE WILL LET you tell him how much you love him and the kids and how sorry you are again.
That way you're doing all this in a constructive and encouraging manner.
Thinking of you...and sending you positive thoughts.
