sadly, yes, lots of hurtful things are said when one finds out, I mostly badmouthed the ow, so I can see why he is just trying to hurt you like you hurt him.
The first months are the worst, so brace yourself for that, he will be stewing in the knowledge daily, as much as he allows it, reaffirm him that you want him, that you respect him. Would he go to marriage counceling w/you? have you suggested it? Are seen a therapist yourself? you might want to think about seeing one to help you cope and deal w/your H's lashing out in pain.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
