Quote: my H kept on "bugging" (for lack of the right word to use) me about what i did.
How much of what happened have you told him, everything? he prob suspects you guys had sex, that's why. Be honest w/him, when we dont' know what happened (the cheated on) we create all this crazy scenarios and enlarge what really happened, he deserves all the truth from you (specially since you never had sex w the om)
Quote: H told me that if ever, our M don't work out and we will get our annulment, and he would tell the children
He is very hurt right now, that's why he is saying it. Dont' focus on this, focus on helping him heal, on earning his trust. I'm sure you've appoligize, on my end I needed to hear from my H constantly that I was the one he wanted now, that he wanted nothing w/the ow, that he prefered me and that I fulfill him. Now, maybe a male can post here and put what a guy would like to hear from his wife if she is the one who cheated.
Get the book 'not just friends' or 'after the affair' to understand your H's feelings a bit better. Give him lots of time, it took me months to stop obsessing hourly about my H and the ow he was seeing.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
