You sound great, and things sound as if they are going great for you. Just be careful not to let your mind get in the way of your success...
I have a thought about him not coming home on Wednesdays and Sundays. You've pointed out that it now seems to be only these two days, and you seem to be pretty well in acceptance of that (that doesn't mean you like it, but you've let it go, mostly).
Why not try a little "act as if" about this? Act as if he has a job that keeps him out all night on Wednesdays and Sundays.... Like he's on call, or he's a cop, or a fireman, or one of the other jobs that "doesn't sleep". Heck, lots of people have to deal with this. Maybe you could do it that way for a little while.
Just a thought, motivated by an observation you've already made. You've already noticed how he can seem to be drawn in when you drop you expectation. Now, maybe you could drop all expectations that he will be around on Wednesdays and Sundays. By dropping those expectations, you might begin doing things as part of YOUR routine that will draw him in on those nights, too. If not, you will still have things just for you on those nights, so it's win-win!!!
Keep up the good work. I'm filled with admiration of your progress!!!
