Quote: I do agree about coming over and not being intimate.
At the risk of sounding like I'm mincing words, I think LL is saying exactly the opposite... She would LOVE for him to come over with the intention of being intimate, rather than just coming over for sex.
OK, I'm ranting now, but this is one of my pet peeves -- the mistaken correlation between intimacy and sex. Look at it this way... It's possible to have sex without intimacy, even without the other party's agreement. Intimacy-less sex is what a one-night-stand is about, it's why there are hookers. On the other hand, it's impossible to have intimacy without agreement, trust, and respect between the parties. The reason so many of us are here has more to do with lack of intimacy than anything else. It is "love you but not IN love with you". It's why so many WS's need an OP. They have lost their trust, agreement and respect for us. It's key that we rebuild it.
LL is doing a fabulous job. Keep up the good work, and send me some of whatever you've started drinking
