I was given pills for my anxiety at the begining and said ta hell with that, had a spell of puking and passing out but finally realized I would be just fine w/out h. him gone I no longer had to worry whether or not he wanted me, no longer feel tense or wonder what was going on. seems when i took a step out of the sit and just accepted him as a person outside of myself, I felt better then noticed h not doing so well. hell there were times when I even had to comfort h in regard to the separation and d. especially at the thought of going to bil's wedding, h was concerned how we'd deal, I simply said hey look at it the way I'm looking at it, you'll be there, I'll be there, you do your thing I'll do mine, no big deal, think that event was harder on him than on me. I don't always say things in the right way. I know rachels anxiety I have read her thread, I know that alot of it is how I have felt at times over the past year. and possibly more so now that my h is trying to come home, without the anxiety. LL
