*M:50 WAH/PA:47 *M:29+ *Bomb:10/13/06 *Sep:10/17/06(me in house) *H wants D-11/30/06 *01/08/07- Me - NG, New R *2/26/07- filing of D *5/29/07- D final *08/25/07- Me - New R ends. - is ex-h living with OW? *D:32, S:24
First off, NO I could not be OW. Had that chance many times, didn't go there.
Let us not confuse nerve and lack of moral awareness, with bravery. She was not brave to come here. She was completely oblivious to how her actions affect others negatively. She spent way too much time justifying it. IF she had allowed the moral qualms I can only hope she feels at some level, to be verbalized and maybe asked us REAL questions about what to do, MORALLY, not tactically, I would have felt very different. I have made bad choices in my life and when I asked for help solving them and overcoming them, thank God I found that help. But please, that is NOT what this was. Don't worry so much about calling a spade a spade as if it invites something negative back at you. "Negative crap" is one thing to avoid, but calling an act that hurts innocent children wrong, is not the wrong thing to do and is not crap, IMHO. j-
Now is the thread closed? where do we go then?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Quote: First off, NO I could not be OW. Had that chance many times, didn't go there.
Let us not confuse nerve and lack of moral awareness, with bravery. She was not brave to come here. She was completely oblivious to how her actions affect others negatively. She spent way too much time justifying it. IF she had allowed the moral qualms I can only hope she feels at some level, to be verbalized and maybe asked us REAL questions about what to do, MORALLY, not tactically, I would have felt very different. I have made bad choices in my life and when I asked for help solving them and overcoming them, thank God I found that help. But please, that is NOT what this was. Don't worry so much about calling a spade a spade as if it invites something negative back at you. "Negative crap" is one thing to avoid, but calling an act that hurts innocent children wrong, is not the wrong thing to do and is not crap, IMHO. j-
Now is the thread closed? where do we go then?
Her new thread.. that we all ignored shows bravery.. and humility. I respect that and I would think that YOU do also as that is what the best in our professions are all about.
On a lighter note.. keep it going guys !..
Please.. let's put this sitch to rest.. and let the new lily feel welcome here should she come back. I am an atty and not the judge.
If you.. do go there to that thread and post. please be cordial and honest ... and no crap !
"Your Honor". That is the only lawyer joke I've liked in a long time. Anyhow, maybe I'll find the other thread and will react accordingly. If she is sincere and not ill willed, okay fine. Like I said, AT, I really know I am a flawed woman.....
but I cannot think of a thing I've done AS AN ADULT, that I knew would hurt someone else. I broke up with boyfriends, but in the long run it was best for them. And cannot think of anything else in my adult life wherein a choice I made actually hurt someone else. I dont' think I'm a saint. I think I am typical. Just saying stuff, b/c we are still here.....
VC where are you and where is that post of yours?? You are why I got here by mistake in the first place and I blame you for all this.....
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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