Oh yeah - I'm absolutely certain my STBX didn't tell OW we were having sex almost *every single night* in the last six months especially and twice nightly during the four day weekend after he dropped the bomb and I suggested we spend the weekend together.
Isn't that the IRONY!!!!! My husband lied about this too. I remember him even feeling a little guilty in the beginning and saying he "shouldn't be doing this" (cheating on the OW!), but he did (and it continued throughout the A!!!). I think he even probably thought he was "in love" with her, but the reality is... unless he's there every second with the OW chances are he's cheating on her too!!!! I actually know of A LOT of men who cheat on OW with the wife. I've even heard of some who marry the OW and then cheat on them with the XW!!!
If your guy is resistent to leaving his marriage and using the kids as an excuse (and that IS an excuse!!!) chances are he's having a lot more sex with his wife than you realize.
OW, if he hasn't filed for divorce yet, you are being used.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
