I AM the OW....He won't stop lying to his wife

[Heywyre]

Saying he "pushed" you to the OW might have some merit but he didn't have to take the leap.

We are all responsible, in one way or the other, for the "makings" of an A - that doesn't mean that I condone what my H did one little bit. But, looking back, I can see where there were times I could have done something differently, been a little kinder etc. Once again, I am NOT letting him off the hook. If there were problems, he should have been a man about it and come to me to work things through. Instead he chose to take the scummy, easy way out (initially - when the bomb hits it isn't so easy anymore)

I have always been of the opinion - you don't like the relationship you are in? Either fix it or get out before you involve yourself in another one because you are complicating a lot of lives other than just your own