I am just reading this whole thing with jaw dropped! I also think she was trying to get to the W of this guy through this board. She knows that the W reads DB, and there is a likelihood of her being on these BBs as well.
It is interesting that these OWs do tend to be intelligent, cool, just-one-of-the-guys type of people. And they believe they've found a soul mate in these married guys. They believe that they can be the cool, fun person on the side who "frees" the man from his dull M and his demanding and un-cool, un-fun W. They think they have it all over us. NOT TRUE! We just happen to be the ones at home keeping the family together and being responsible adults. no shame in that.
And it's true, we are trying to get back to the person we were when we started dating our spouses. That is not chainging our personalities. That is simply trying to find that inner person within us that used to exist before things like kids and mortgages came into the picture.
Just because someone is cheated on doesn't give them the right to partake in ending someone else's M. No she is not the whole problem, but she adds significant fuel to the fire. Oh yeah, true love, right. NOT! It's called infatuatation and it's an escape from real life.
Too bad thsi guy is lying to his W. But if he really wanted out, he'd be out. He he wanted to end his M and live happily ever after with this OW, then he would have done that already. He woulnd' stay in a M just to spare his W's feelings. That's not hwo it works.
Whatever... I don't know what this OW was tryign to accomplish here. I mean, did she expect us to give her advice on how to get her married boyfriend to tell his W the truth so that she could finally have him all to herself? GET REAL!
