I AM the OW....He won't stop lying to his wife

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First of all, I am NOT the cause of someone's pain, her husband is. I didn't marry her, he did. Sometimes friendships turn into something else you you can't help who you fall in love with.

Wow, what a nice way to duck out on all personal responsibility. Have you ever heard of choice? You made a choice....things like extramarital affairs don't "just happen" they happen out of CHOICES.

Not everyone who wants to end their marriage is "BAD" sometimes people have to take responsibility in their part of the demise of a relationship.

And you need to accept your role as well. A decent person would step away until the current R (theirs) is resolved.

Once you cheat on your spouse, the purity is gone, you can never say I've been faithful.

What makes you delusional enough to think he will be different with you? You're absolutely right, the purity is gone...and your R with him has never had any.