I AM the OW....He won't stop lying to his wife

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I'm going to go after a married man, it's circumstance.

The hell it is, it is a CONSCIOUS desicion, it's called having morals. Once he is divorced then he is free to do whatever he likes, until then, he is still a married man and it is just plain WRONG to b w/him. No matter how you want to slice it, you are commiting adultery and calling it "ops, it just 'happened'".

If he had a spine he wouldnt' be jerking that poor confused woman around they way he is, and he'd be straight w/you and be with you once he had his divorce papers in hand. Unless you are a naive 20 something you dont' just believe the old "I'm divorcing my wife, really, in the meantime let's be together." Hope your children dont' learn your ways, I wonder what they think of you.

How low of you to have research DB to "advice" him on how she might "trick him". Cant' you just for a second think that perhangs this woman is really trying to meand her ways and see she's done wrong in her M and is making true changes?

The only change that's worth it is change that's permanent, and very few people can change their personalitlies.

And how the heck do you find out which change is permanent? no, people don't change overnight, it takes time and work, but people CAN change. I've done an awful amount of damage to my M, to my H, and I saw it, saw the ugliness of my ways and vowed to change.

Did I change 100% overnight? No, but I started the day w/a new attitude.
Did/do I fail occasionally? Yes, we are all human, but after I fall I dust myself and get up again.

The only fool in this situation is you, not her, she is the wife, you are just the woman on the side.