OW... I hear a lot of anger and hurt in your responses. I am also sorry that you feel you are being attacked. I don't really see that anyone attacked you. What I have seen is peopel expressing their opions, much the same way you are. I am wondering what kind of responses you are looking for...what kind would make you feel as though you weren't being attacked?
I am 35 and I have never cheated on my xhusbands or boyfriends...I know I have 5 more years to go but...
I am wondering why you are so against them trying the marriage busting techniques? If his lying to her bothers you, why don't you let him know that you can not be with him until he can make up his mind. Take some power back for yourself.
Maybe you could apply the principles of DBing to your relationship with the OM...let him make up his own mind, detach...don't be so involved in the outcome.
This might not be the best place for you to get support on staying with a maried man. I will actually go one step further and tell you that you won't get support for that behavior here. However, this is a great place to come and get support on your journey to finding out who you are, where your personal power is, developing a lving relationship with yourself. This is where I come when I need help looking in the mirror. This is where I have made friends that are forever bonded to me through the pain we suffered together. No one here soley blames the OW for the loss of their marriage. OW/OM are symptoms. Just like no one blames the alcohol when a person is an alcoholic. What peopel here are trying to help you understand is that your decision to remane as a 3rd party in a relationship is damaging to all those involved.
