Quote: It's very easy for people to judge, one day any one of you could be in my position.
First of all it would never happen to me. If I knew someone was M I would not put myself in a position where I would affect the outcome of it. That is just me personally.
Quote: Did you quesiton Utterly alone's morals?
To answer your question YES I DID. The only difference is that she made a mistake and is owning up to it to try and save her marriage. She has made big strives to change what she has done wrong and make amends for them.
As far as judeing you, it was more my opionion as a man not really judging you. There is only one person that will judge you in the end. I was just simply stating facts that you have brought up in your own posts.
Like he is lieing to his W about not seeing you. Why do you think that he does that? Because he is still on the fence maybe? If he was truly over his past relationship he would end it unless he really is a puss. He is teadiering between what has had and the mystery of the fantasy he is living right now that is it. First thing he shoudl do is deal with his previous relationship and figure out if it is worth saving. Niether one of you in your current relationship could be happy with the way it is.
And as far as her holding the kids over his head. Honestly it was his descision to bail on his family so she can do what ever she wants to. He will just have to get a good lawyer and hope that the negative traits about his W that you posted will be enough to get him more than weekend vists. Which we all know will not happen. Of course we do not know his whole sitch so we really can not comment on it but we can comment on the fact that you are part of the reason he is still on the fence.
Fair enough. You have a right to your opinion, as I do mine. I never said he wasn't on the fence, I never said he was 100% ready to cut ties, or maybe he just cares and is going about it the wrong way to keep peace. Those are all his decisions. It's something he has to come to terms with, I can't make his decisions for him. You're right, no one will be happy with the current situation. Something's got to give somewhere, whatever it is, it is.
