I read the book, I think some of it is good advice, communication, not nagging, giving space, and I don't agree with other parts, I don't agree with doing a 180 if it's not geninuine and if it's just to trick your spouse into coming back. The only change that's worth it is change that's permanent, and very few people can change their personalitlies. I didn't see any stipulations that you had to be the scored woman or man to speeak on this board, it doesn't make me a troll. I read the book to see what tactics she was going to use on him, and I told him to read it himself so he could be prepared. I wanted to see what other people had to say, so I started reading the boards. I'm all for saving a marriage if it can be saved, in fact I told him more times than I can count, if you think you can save your marriage, than go do it, god bless and stop seeing me. He doesn't believe it can be saved, and from what he has told me and what I have seen, and yes, I have seen, I don't think so either. Some people have had success, others success only temporarily, others no success at all.
