Your are right, you are not going to be popular here.
Are you happy now that you are part of the cause of someone else's pain?
If HER H can lie to her, what makes you think he won't lie to you?
You said it yourself, you weren't the first.
You said SHE is needy, insecure, and dependant. Ummm....what about YOU?! You are involved with a married man! Don't you have any respect for yourself?
He obviously has feelings left for his wife or else he wouldn't be trying to keep from hurting her.
You don't know what drove him out of the house to begin with. He could be lying to you. Unless you were a third party in their house you really have no idea.
You think what he is doing is WRONG, What about YOU?
You say you have kids, what the h^ll is this teaching them?
She doesn't look like the fool, you do!!!!
YOUR INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED MAN........Grow up and find some self respect for yourself.