Does this actually work? I mean, Doesn't that sentence just make H angry and defensive? Is it really DR or DB? I feel like it so much conflicting information. I don't want to be on hold for the rest of my life either.
I know a WAW who is now D many years, she tried to get her H to counseling, he wouldn't go, but he didn't want D, she had an A that tanked eventually. They (she and ex) were friends and still are, she (WAW) is "friends" with the him and his new wife. And she says now it's the worst mistake she ever made.
But, ya know, but what the heck, why do I want to be in an advisarial place with him. What the heck is he doing though? All kinds of things run through my head.
I have a friend, I havent' been talking to so much anymore, well not about my H anyway. She told me I should lock him out and forget it, he's not my friend. It's absolutly amazing how many people will support you in D. The whole legal system pushes to D. Maybe I should have listened to her.
I think sometimes we need a separate forum for dealing with WAH. They are a difffernet "alien" I think.
I really have to thank you again for the laugh, I really needed that sooooo bad.
I really want to do what God would have me do. As a friend, what would I say if he wasn't my H?Is that to just let him go no strings, no contest. Let him just stab me and ride off into the sunset.
Maybe that's the best thing for me to get on and not have this pain, I dont' know if it's a solution. I guess I want some hope. But I don't see any. Seems our M is pretty much over as it is now.
Sometimes I get this crazy idea that the "mean girls" (if you've seen the movie) have made it worse (people around him who'd like to see him D, friends of possible OW), or that I've been slandered by them. This goes back to having been a victim of false gossip and disinformation in high school. It really screwed up my life, but I thought that was all past way before I met H. And I was really careful with my heart. I should have been keeping up with something in-between the time he did this back in '03. (six weeks). I had read various DB type info then, and tried to use it. But obviously to no avail. I'm feeling ill again.
Thank God you are here. I just think I can't stand it sometimes, but I know people here understand.
Geez I haven't gotten that work done at all I need to do. Well it's a long weekend.
