Thank you so much for your response. I've been afraid to do anything really. Yes he has been offering me crumbs. He's been doing things like walking the dog when I'm working. And he does things for our neighbor which gives him an excuse to come by. Even when I don't ask him to. I haven't changed locks or anything, I've pretty much just let him come and go as he wants. I'm not sure if it's MLC because he's early 50. We have so many factors that would say... this couple has a better than average chance of lasting. But I do know that he has been unhappy. It's complicated by many factors I won't go into here. I miss talking and so much, ad doing things with him, I miss my honey. But it's true, this is certainly not the M I want with him not here. I brought him some candy that he likes (ed) when I brought him his mail one day (not very DB) and he brought it back with last years xmas present with a note that he doesn't want this he wants D, until I'm reasonable we have nothing to talk about. Reasonable is only doing it his way. I think maybe I wasn't there enough for him, that I've given him too much space. It's not about D not being an option, it's about being with him! I dont know what I think anymore. I've tried to be supportive in his projects and given him space and we are further and further apart. I have so much work to do and I can't think. I've been depressed myself, deaths in both our family/friends, terminal illness in my family. I try to keep that mustard seed of faith though and count my blessings. But I still ache I've been frozen in some ways. I want to understand how to truly be loving to him. I am working on the GAL. I"m afraid my inaction has been bad. But you have made excellent suggestions and I am going to re-read your post. Thank you so much.
