Read about your feelings. I am glad you shared with us your frustration since I feel the same as you do.
I can see why you felt frustrated, and I wish I could have the attitude of yours: not holding back, but keep moving on with my life. That is such a great attitude.
I wanted to say that your love for your H appears to be a strong and mature one, regardless his behavior and indecisiveness. As you know, love is a choice, and sometimes a painful one. I admire your willingness to stay this far; that is much more than most many people could endure, with kids or not. I see your M has started to turn, even though the process is painfully slow. Your goal to reconcile is actually in sight, despite it will take many more baby steps.
Give H a little bit more time, as you said he needs to grow up. If he is the one you love, you would accept him as he is, despite of those immature characters of his. You deserve someone to give you love, warmth and respect, as we all do. Many of us still hang in here since we also chose who we wanted to them get from, despite he/she walks away.
Keep sharing your frustration here and we'll listen to you as you do ours.
