ok let me fool myself with looking at things a bit differently.
when we were in counseling together for those two sessions at the begining of sep before d talk. h talked about how he focussed his attentions on the business part of his life (thus neglecting me) c asked him when he was going to start living the other parts of his life, h said he was waiting to be pulled out (the ow did that) he didn't outright say it but I know it to be his thought. (no mind reading just knw) so then I can look at it as SHE is the one for him or I can look and see it as she did the dirty work got him to realize some things about life and relationships, h has some regrets about the way he handled our r long ago (though he does blame me some for not understanding he was busy with work and I only pushed him away by not understanding his lack of time for me) so now h sees what a r takes and is CHOSING to put that effort into us, so what if it took his r with her to see it, I will reap the benifit of what he learned. my only fear is that he will think that she is the one. I all along told him not to credit her with where he is now, that all he is becoming and seeing about life is his own growth. maybe I can do this, if I only think possitive and keep my mouth shut! LL
