thanks all, I know no two sits are alike any more than any two people are alike. h is trying yes he does have to grow a bit and honestly so do i, I have to let go of my parents r and realize that like on this board no two stories are the same no matter how similar they seem.
I have heard many tales of the whats and why's of how my r with my h ended up at this place, from us being together from such a young age, from his business absorbing him, peole have assumed mlc on his part, the children, some go so far as to say that I have surpassed him intilectually and he couldn't keep up so stayed in the simple life, hey that is even something my c thinks but then again the people who think that never met h. there are many reasons why the r has ended up at this point, it is not one factor but many, can they be overcome, time will tell, tonight i will keep my mouth shut about the r and just be.
as far as getting away, no need to take the kids to my mothers, and no need to keep them from h, h has already let me know I can take a vaca as he went to superbowl last year and just went to miami last month, I think i will take advantage of our time share and airline miles and sit on the beach in aruba for a few days while he tends to the kids, just have to wait for work to slow down. h is trying now I just have to take some time out and let him try. LL
