love makes us all fools, i guess and when you throw kids into the equation even those who would chose to be a fool no longer have to close their eyes. my h has been a fool for love the love he thinks he has for the ow, now he is put in a position where he can "suffer" through the healing process with a woman that he loves and has a family with or he can leave her for the "care free" life with another woman. it is really all up to him at this point and that he feels is a hell of alot of pressure, may be easier on him if I just told him to get lost!! then he would not have to grow up as I highly doubt he would ever choose to live with her and her two kids when he could live with me and HIS two kids. she would grow tired of that life and he would ultimately be left alone paying the bills for a family he started and gave up on. his choice for now, I will only keep the door open for so long and it is slowly closing don't know if i'll ever lock it but it will soon close. LL
