thank you all for your thoughts, I know it definately to be an affair, this "friendship" was hidden from me before and after it was discovered. he admits to falling in love with her. it's an affair no matter who's looking at it. as far as pa or not really at this point who gives a crap, he admits to being in love with her, admitted to wanting to be physical with her, i know they planned to be together after dumping us, me and her h. so what diff does it make if they were screwing around, they may as well have been , they were being decetedful anyway so why draw a line.
the problem is not her and it is not me it is my h. he seems to want a care free r with no responsibility or commitment, but then again I do not know what he wants.
I am just tired of the game, i'm taking a step back from his drama and putting myself back where i was a month ago, separated and not trying. let him do what he wants (except me) I can't treat him like a h, because i don't think he's so sure he wants to be one. LL
