ll, i ask the same question. my h has never been happier. he tells me he loves me about 20 x's a day since he has been back in our lives. (8 mo) i am having a very hard time letting go of my anger and disgust. h's ow was a "pig" and this is a quote from at least 5 different men. i can not believe he chose to spend his days and worse his nights with her. actually that is not even the issue who or what the ow was. it's about betrayal, deciet and abandonment. my d was 8 mo old when h walked out to be with ow. wish i had an answer for us. sorry i am not more positive, i am in mourning of my lost marraige. lisa
