z, I did ask h how he defines "in love" how do you know when you are "in love" with someone, h said, wanting to be around that person and wanting that person to be around you. (hmm and he is not in love with me???) someone who understands how he feels, listens when he talks, appreciates him etc....
you are right in that I should not be thinking he is in love with someone else but is choosing to be with me, I should be thinking he IS choosing to be with me, I had stopped asking him to try on us, he came to that descision on his own. he can still be with ow, and he is right in that, she is still available to him and actually is making herself totaly available to him in asking her h for a d. (and yes I know this is not about her) I just don't want to live with a man who thinks he is settling, giving up on that once in a life time person that he (may) thinks she is.
this is about me and my h and our children, h is right he doesn't have to be with me, was already out and we were adjusting fine. so why now that he on his own decided to try am I dwelling on his feelings for another person???? because I want him to have those feelings for me since that is what he was missing that led him to her. I just don't know what I am supposed to do now. LL
