my h and ow "claim" (and most of the time I believe) it was not a physical relationship, that honestly makes it harder because our IS, so she was giving and he was giving to her, the emotional attachment, the "feelings" the friendship, the comfort, the desire to be around that person to want that person to be around you. with her there is no responsibility to be around, it's all just relaxed and nice nice, with me there is baggage and responsibilty. I want what I have always wanted, to be my husbands best friend, this woman was his best friend and now he has a new male best friend (well someone he has been football buddies with since childhood) how am i to be my h's best friend when he keeps getting attached to these other people, i will always just be the wife who is sometimes included in the fun. LL
