jw you are right, she is as she herself said, NOTHING. thing is h for a very long time did nothing but work, didn't really have relationships with people so he therefore believes (and who the hell knows maybe he is) they had something special that he was/is in love with her. pretty basic r they had if you ask me. a little time here and there a little conversation here and there, what really is that nothing more than a basic friendship, easy comfortable and pleasurable because NOTHING is expected of the other. no responsibiltiy to the other. no shared responsibilities friends or family. I cannot give him such a simple relationship. I know the reasons that he withdrew from me, he devoted himself to his business and I felt neglected my wanting to spend time with him was taken as resenting the business he withdrew bla bla bla. found pleasure in her company, stayed away as we were to be married, still wasn't happy with me wanted that feeling again so went back to her. now a home and two kids later how can I give this man the relationship that will give him that "feeling" he seeks.
to her (ow) his being "in love" with her is a HUGE thing, to me it's a mere and temporary inconvenience. falling in love with someone is not a very difficult thing loving someone is a very different thing and my h does love me very much. (and yes I let little ow know this in response to her supposed compliment to me being a stronger person that her) I just want h to be happy, I can be his friend but I am also his wife and the mother of his children, share a home and family with him so that tends to get in the way of the fun little care free "in love" crap.
so how to make your spouse fall "in love" with you??
