ll, i am familiar with everything you are feeling. my h had a pa for 3 monthes in 98 and 3 monthes in 99 with a friend from highschool. they talked in between and h stayed in contact with her off and on until may this year when i found out and demanded he call her. he had told me they were no longer in contact when they were. i saw a call on the cell bill and her # in his phone. he had no idea how important it was to me that they end their friendship. he thought since nothing was going on it was no big deal.
he also had a 3 month pa with a coworker that he ended all on his own. she haunts us still. i found out about both affairs the same day as h walked out on me and d nov of last year. we have been working on our marriage since march.
things can change in an instant i have learned. i am still plagued with sadness at being betrayed and left. h is very loving and honest now. still its very hard for me to feel in love with a man who could do all that.
you just hang in there. everything will be ok. lisa
