Quote: you have no right to demand that he behave the way you wish.
I have no right to DEMAND anyting of him that is true, I do have the right as his wife to ask him to not speak to this woman who invaded our marriage whether it was invited by him or not. I have let him know that I understand he still cares for her, but that she has no place in our marriage. well actually I said a few other things too, basically just pointing out that she doesn't really deserve any pity from him, whatever "hell" she is in now is her own doing, he wouldn't expect anyone to pity him so why give it to her. I feel that his responding to her will cease on it's own, she however may need to be told straight out to take a hike.
thanx z i value your opinion on this as I know you have dealt with it. hope I can be as strong about it as you have LL
