thanks z, I'm trying to be less angry about the sit. question for you and for all those here, how do I get past feeling like a fool who has been lied to?? I want to trust h but am having a hard time, ow IS still calling h, and h returns her calls. still claiming they were just friends, I don't know many friends who leave their spouses for eachother and talk of a life together. h did not come over last night, said that there will be times during this (reconcile) that he will want to be alone. thing is though he wants to be alone, and I understand he needs his space, his not being here makes me uncomfortable. I am tryig to trust h and that is hard to do when you have been lied to the way I have. LL
