So you don't think it's MLC. How long have you been married?

I want you to listen to me. There is no 'try' to stay away from the painfilled subjects. You have GOT to stay away from those topics or you will get burned. Been there and done that and don't plan to go there again.

It takes a lot of will-power to put that boundary around the ow but, Andrea was right, she wasn't the problem in your sick marriage but rather a symptom.

You will do well if today you search inside of yourself and find whatever it is that will enable you to Thought-Stop whenever the ow or the A crosses the forefront of your mind.


Let's talk about the intimacy. Right now, realize that there Will be a lessening in that department and if you are like most of the rest of us in Piecing it is going to send you into a mild panic at least.

In my situation my H probably had low testosterone BEFORE the PA. The EA got him to having ideas and sensations that'd been absent from our R for awhile. The PA probably made his testosterone zoom high as the sky. He had to go through withdrawal from the addiction to the ow and when that happened he experienced low libido. We laughed together and sang, "What goes up must come down".

I've been told that this hormonal thing will correct itself. Meanwhile, his sexual interest is low and mine is high. Directly opposite the way it was about 5 years ago.

So. Let's review. What is the poison to your relationship. (Say "OW") and laugh at ripping away the power of her over your mind.

Also, things in the bedroom stay the same.---Y or N. The correct answer is No. More on that later.
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We gotta be proactive over here in Piecing. We need to make sure that our new 'residents' understand that the wheel has been invented re the poison of the ow talks and some other stuff.
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Note to Andrea (thanks for letting me borrow space LL).

You are Spanish, is your H? Mine is 100% Spanish. On top of everything else, I get to deal w 'machismo'.

I enjoy reading your posts to Rachel and like the way you are DBing. Hope to get to know you better as time goes by.