LL: My h too ask for reconciliation in a time i never expected that...!!... i was feeeling the same fear as you... When he asked for that, i was decided and strong enough to began a new proyect life without him... So, i had to put a stop and re-try on my M... It havent been easy... but i can tell you now we have a better relation... The continue fightings about anything, stop at all because now i know what was his game... and now i feel stronger and handle tools that i hadnt use in a long long time on my M... Like not taking by discount some things that really makes them happy... the butterfly effect that michelle post on her book it is really effective... So... shut your mouth... I never ask anything about OW... i just know what he wants to tell me... I never put OW as the prime problem between us, because she isnt, and because i will not be the one who remind him about her... I feel fear not because that specific OW, but because his crisis... because he feel like a teenager needing fantasies and fresh body... he feel handsome, iron man, he deserves all... I try to work a lot on that fear, working a lot on myself... feeling better each day about my self... and showing him that feelings about my self... and at the same time, i try to show him how much i love him... i care about him more than in the past, with compliments, admirations, and laughing more than talking about home problems....!!... Try on that, and you will see both will feel happier... Good luck
