My H feels very justified because he says he has found the kind of love that was missing from our relationship. He blames me for the breakdown of our marriage but he also tells me that it is not because of her that we are separated. She just expedited the process. I think he got very caught up in the "good" feelings she made him feel. I too think I would have resisted because I tend to see all sides before I make a move. My husband told me that he never really thought about what would happen. He is living for the moment and day to day. His children and I are devasted and he knows it but he says his happiness is what is important and we have to learn to live with it. By the way the OW is married with children too and will probably not leave her husband so my H says. He says that he will not come running back even when it ends with her. We have been separated now for over two months with no filing for divorce. He comes over to the house almost every day to see his children and just recently we started playing tennis together just like we did before we were married at his request. Even though his children cry every time he leaves, he still feels he is doing the right thing.
