Got it !.. just rent the movie some time.. I think you would enjoy it.. even if it is JS in the early 50's.. we wont make you write a report or anything !
Yep...that's my approach for now...low key, cautious and friendship for now...it seems to work. We both aren't the type to have wild fights or confrontations...he is being very nice now...so I'm not rocking the boat.
I know these things take time and I read all the posts in piecing...waiting for that rollercoaster, but, we both did cheat on each other, he won't talk about it, but, he knows that I know...so, I'm not ready to move over there yet. We both live apart, he has our house and I have mine, so it's going to have to do for now.
I do think the longer the separation (or divorce) the fewer ups and downs on the roller coaster. There's more healing completed so you can focus more on the relationship between you two as individuals rather than outside stuff.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Yes, I agree with you...plus the fact that we are equal in cheating - his was first and longer - commands an equal playing field. I do know more about his A, than he of mine, so I'm not that interested in hearing anymore about his OW - yet, I know he suspects the OM as being my former boss. Such as, there is no need to go down that path.
Right now, we are learning to be friends. There's no ILY's or talk of selling houses, none of that...which I find a little refreshing.
I still think, 1210.. That we can round up all the felines... place them gently on his warm car.. and take a photo ! or.. at least just have him see this in person for fun !
