The long journey I didn't sign up for.............

[nodivorceplease]

Well, H came to visit today and we had a great day. We spent almost the whole day as a family and we really had fun together. I was pleasant and easy going in his presence. It always baffles me how we can have such a great time together and then H still seems content with leaving us. I'm starting to wonder, have I made it too easy for him??? He visits several times a week and we usually spend time together as a family. Have I not given him a chance to miss me??? Is he having his cake and eating it too?? He says he wants to D me but does not appear to be in any hurry. I see a lot of women here have talked about "going dark" and how that actually helped their sitch. Of course, he will continue to visit because we have a daughter together. How can I go dark when he visits so frequently?? I really think I need to make myself a lot less available to him. I need to stop letting him know every detail of my life. I think I'm going to go semi-dark and just see what happens. It's impossible to go completely dark because he is here quite often to spend time with D7. I guess I can try it for a few weeks and see whats happens. I have made so many 180's and he doesn't seem to notice. Honestly, maybe pulling back will help me too. Any thoughts or advice is appreciated.

Shelly