First let me say that my heart aches for you and your wonderful children, and you are in my prayers. You are getting wonderful advice from those already posting on you thread. But I thought I,d relate a conversation that I had with an old friend who I visited during the holidays. This man has been a friend and golfing buddy for over 25 years. I met him shortly after he had gone through a divorce from his wife of 15 years.
I asked him to relate the whole story of his divorce, which he did. The details are unimportant but we at this board would recognize it as a classic MLC WAW. She left him and remarried immeadiately after the divorce was final. This marriage lasted less than two years, and shortly after her divorce from second husband she made contact with my friend again. They dated for several months and then one night she told friend that she had made a horrible mistake and asked if he would take her back. He told her no that he could never trust her again and that the pain was too great to ever go back. They soon quit dating and both moved on. Her to 3 more marriages and him to a life of bachelerhood.
The sad part of this story is that to this day he said he has always regretted his decision to not take her back. He said he still calls her once a year on their anniversary and they talk about what could have been. He acknowledges that she was in a MLC, because he eventually went through one himself. His lasted almost 7 years and ended when he attempted suicide and almost succeeded.
My friend told me in no uncertain terms to not give up but to wait. He has known my wife for 25 years and recognizes the change that has come over her during this MLC. He has assured me that she will change and to just be patient. It was very comforting to hear this from someone who has been there.
This is not the only story of MLC I have heard from my friends and acquaintances. In fact I personally know of four relationships that were reconciled. Two were divorced, one for 2 years and the other for 5 years. Two were seperated, one for 1 year, the other for two.
It appears to me that this is not at all uncommon for WA's to attempt to return. But as we all know each situation is different as our own personalities are different.
In my own situation I will STAND even if my wife divorces me and remarries. To me this is a spiritual battle. I made a vow and will not go back on it. The battle for me is not against flesh and blood, but against the spirtual powers that attempt to control this world.
I pray that GOD blesses you and your children rider, and pray that your wifes heart will be softened and your marriage will be restored.
