Ive been on these posts for quite a while, ever since my wife of 20 yrs left me and the kids for a better life. I really beieve that she's in the mist of a MLC. I have read the six stages and she is in it deep. I have posted and some help has come my way, I have gotten some answers to why but really connot understand. Her family is backing her decision, well her mother is. She is believing all her lies and is acting on them. talking bad about me. Say's I'm poisoning the minds of my kids so they have nothing to do with her. When in fact it's their mothers actions that are turning these kids away. She never calls, even on Christmas. NO phone call, No gifts, nothing.
She got married a couple months ago, told my youngest after she had to drag it out of her. She was so concern I would find out. Why? So my problem is. AFter 20 yrs of marriage. And all in less than two years, She left me, moved to another state with BF. Has nothing to do with her kids, Divorce me. gets married after 2 months of being divorced. No contact with her kids or me pertaining to the kids. NOTHING. I have been doing my best with this DB thing, trying to get on with my life with these kids and I don't know if under the circumstances, if she will ever snap out of this.
SHe said its was because of me that she was so unhappy. Never did she say this to me before. Everyone thought we had the perfect marriage. We were best friends. and now she's gone. Do people ever come out of this after getting remarried? Do they think they've gone too far that they cannot come back? Im really hurting and missing her. I've been trying to be as patient as possible, BUt some days I just can't.
I ask both of you because you seem to be two of the masters on here. I mean, you have the best insite. going through what you've gone through. Thanks. X
