yea i have asked her what she trully wanted, before she moved out. her response was i really dont know. last march she was all for divorce when her affair was strong. she said some really nasty things to me, but i stayed strong, let it all run off my back, worked on myself, she noticed and things began to change, only after i like osu says i was done. she then and only then became interested in me again. i know she really dosnt know what she wants. could she be hidding things from me? sure she could, but i dont know why she would because i have told her i dont care if is still seeing om, its her life and she could do what ever she wanted, just like i am going to do. now i can tell you, this has confused her, i didnt do it for that reason, i did it for me, for my sanity, i really let her go. but i have been very good about keeping the friendship, i will admit that. i could have in todays world been justified to disown her and never talk to her again, other then kid issues. but i have not taken that approch, i understand i was at some fault. all this has been discussed with her. like i said its been almost a year and a half since my bomb was dropped, i am in a better place now. i truly love my wife, she knows that, but she also knows i can not take any more back and forth. so i just be friendly, because i want to, not to try to get her back, but mainly for the kids. where i am confused is this is all her doing, she wants this, atleast that is why she moved out again. but why is she still acting like she is my wife? is it because she is confused, or is it because she likes our friendship. if its the latter then why the love making still. what do the women in here think? if you were done your done right? i know if i was certain i would be, but i am not like i said i still have 10% wanting to save this. maybe that is where she is at also and we cant communicate that with each other. i dont know, it confuses the hell out of me.
