well im back. i dont know if anyone remembers me. im 36 my wife is 36 also. married 15yrs together 18yrs. two kids S15 D9. any way back in feb. 06 wife out of the blue tells me she is not happy and needs space to figure out what she wants in life. moves out in march. during march she begins telling me all my faults that lead her to leaving. i start working on them. swears that there is no third person in her decision to leave. i believe her. well in april i find that was a hugh lie. she had been having an affair since sept. 05 with someone she worked with. april and may are hard months, but find this place and work on myself and try to let her go. she didnt like me going dark on her. would always call and want to do things with me. late may she tells me she cut it off with om and wants to r our marriage. she moves home in june. first month was tough, with me telling her that this is not going to work we should get divorced (because she was not back into the r and was not committed). she agrees she has not been committed but she wants to try and was sorry for everything she put me thru. the next four months were pretty good (better then years). then comes nov. just like a light switch was flipped she was off again. dosent know what she wants. we agree to seperate again. she stayed thru the holidays. every since that talk we have gotton along really well. still ML still ILY's. as i am typing this i am shaking me head. well for the last two weeks i have been helping (well actually moving her my self) out of the house. she is now gone again. ok this is where i am confused: 1) w acts like we are best friends (tells me all the time i am her best friend) 2) always wants to hang out together. 3) calls none stop 4) flirts all the time
i love my w, but i cant take this anymore. her on again off again is killing me. she says this is for her, my gut tells me om is still in the picture. my gut tells me she is just using me for the needs i give her that she is not getting from who ever. she has her cake and is eating it too. i have been playing the nice guy card for so long i am getting tired. i dont know what to do anymore. i do my own thing, i dont pursue her, she pursues me.
